A collection of thoughts from a 20 year old woman going through life.
Anonymous asked: To explain further, it has nothing to do with sexism or anything, because I'm pretty much all for equality. It's the fact of how most women carry themselves, which plays negatively on the entire female gender as a whole (kind of how like the bad religious people get noticed more than the kind loving ones) If guys see a girl dressed like that, they're going to assume they can get sex and only like her for body. Where as if she dressed less so, she may find a guy wanting her for her.
“To explain further, it has nothing to do with sexism or anything,
Oh darling, but it does. Although the words don’t technically say it, the whole picture / meaning / thought behind the image are steeped in sexism.
I have NEVER (However, if you could provide substantial evidence other wise) seen anything about MEN having to / being asked to / shamed to change what they wear because it might “attract devil minded women”.
These staunch messages of what is “immodest” and “appropriate” in the nature of women, are constantly berated nearly exclusively to girls starting from a young age (I.E. Slut shaming). It is generally frowned upon for women to have multiple partners, have sex in general or to dress “provocatively”.
What about men? Hm? Have we not seen men (in media or even in real life) who brag about “scoring” or “Getting some from more than one”. I don’t ever think I have seen a man getting shamed for what he was wearing. But perhaps there are cases out there, but it tends to be reserved for females.
So don’t give me the bullshit of “it has nothing to do with sexism”
Side note unrelated to this Anon, I didn’t appreciate the word choice of the image. “Dear girls” as the beginning and end being “From real men”. It’s undermining. The word choice of GIRLS and MEN bother me. We are not GIRLS. We are WOMEN, you asshole. I can make my own choice on clothing, as I am not a little GIRL. Once again, this was not directly to you Anon, but to the picture itself.
What you are suggesting is that women who dress “indecently” should expect to attract “pigs” and the behaviors that come with those types of men. I should also say that it parallels dangerously close to the idea that women who “dress immodestly” shouldn’t be surprised about getting raped (I.E. victim blaming due to clothing choice). If they hadn’t dressed like “sluts/whores/whatever” they wouldn’t have received the attention, like RAPE, that they did.
Please note Anon, I am aware that you did not say that and I’m sure you’re an upstanding citizen that is against rape, I am merely commenting that the ideals are dangerously close and that once again the wording in the image is very much up to debate
because I’m pretty much all for equality.
Your anonymous ask says other wise. Why do you hide behind it? Are you in fear of your own opinion? Should you feel the need to explain, you’ll probably note that the anonymous feature has been disabled on my ask. But feel free to reply regardless..
It’s the fact of how most women carry themselves, which plays negatively on the entire female gender as a whole (kind of how like the bad religious people get noticed more than the kind loving ones)
I understand the simile that you are trying to convey. Although religion is not comparable as it encompasses a wider array of people. This subject of women is all on it’s own. Please inform me about how most women carry themselves today, as I am interested in a good laugh.
People, regardless of gender, are going to do what they will. And they should. It is their life and they are going to live it as they see fit, and they should be happy with the choices.
Personally, I was not put on this Earth with the sole purpose to judge other women on what kind of top they’re wearing. Seriously, I’ve got better things to do. If people opposite of my views think of the low top wearer as beneath them, then those adverse people really need to re-evaluate what is important in life.
Which by the way anonymous, what gender are you? As this does matter to how I can understand your view point.
Has your gender been oppressed for hundreds of years? Have you experienced the misogyny that I have? Have you experienced the fear and the shame of being called a slut for just wearing short shorts?
If guys see a girl dressed like that, they’re going to assume they can get sex and only like her for body. Where as if she dressed less so, she may find a guy wanting her for her.
Have I covered this? I feel like I covered this already. None the less..
Why is it a woman’s responsibility for what happens in the man’s pants? It’s the man’s thoughts that are to blame. HE should know better. It’s the male entitlement.
A partner should love you for mind and body, be tolerant of your flaws and love you no matter what.
I hope this has not been too burning for you, Anon.
Anonymous asked: About that post, I think you were wrong. The post in question being the thing about how women dress. The post was not meant to be offensive, not at all. It was just saying that if women dress a certain way, they're going to attract certain guys. It's not saying women CAN'T wear what they want, just that if you're going to go out in short shorts and a shirt that exposes your midsection anda push up bra, ect, you can't expect to find a guy who wants you for you, and not your body.
“About that post, I think you were wrong.
When posing an argument, please form a more concise argument. ‘I think’ is not a clear opinion. In your view, I’m either right or wrong. Not maybe right or maybe wrong.
The post in question being the thing about how women dress.
This one~ I’m assuming
The post was not meant to be offensive, not at all.
.. Were you the creator of the image? Never mind that, it doesn’t matter. It’s YOUR belief that it’s “not offensive”. The image itself is so vaguely (and poorly) worded and it calls forth different opinions from diverse interpretations.
It was just saying that if women dress a certain way, they’re going to attract certain guys. It’s not saying women CAN’T wear what they want, just that if you’re going to go out in short shorts and a shirt that exposes your midsection anda push up bra, ect, you can’t expect to find a guy who wants you for you, and not your body.”
But it is IMPLYING IT. It’s basically saying that if women would dress “right”, then they would bypass all the “pigs”. By the logic in the image, and what you’re saying, a woman would alter what she wears to lessen the desire of the unwanted guys.
But why? Why don’t the guys learn to control their bodies and minds, rather than just blame the attire of the woman? Hmm? Or are men purely lustful fiends of which cannot control their actions when cleavage appears?
Why can’t we as a society learn that, in more ways then one, we shouldn’t judge a book by it’s cover?
Plus the fact that not all “pigs” are exclusively looking for “improperly” dressed women. Some are regular assholes that go for “properly” dressed women. Pigs come in all shapes and sizes, my friend.
Uh.. Excuse me?
This was recently posted on my Facebook feed. It was shared by a .. erm.. an acquaintance who is a a devout Christan. Those of you who know me outside of Tumblr probably have seen this today aswell.
And although I have no problem with freedom of religion or opinions, what I hear sometimes rubs me the wrong way.
In which case, I begin to form opinions of my own
- How do you define immodestly? Does not each person have their own definition that is none alike one another?
- Uh. I will dress how I want, thank you very much. Just because your harsh standards on your own gender change your wardrobe, does not mean that I will change mine. Do you realize that you’re enforcing gender standards on women that have been around for hundreds of years?
- Why do you think that women who “dress immodestly” want attention? Have you ever thought that maybe a girl just wants to dress up (or down) because she fucking wants to?
- Just because a woman dresses “like a harlot or trollop” or anything of the sort, DOES NOT MAKE THEM SO. First off, those are YOUR opinions of HER clothes. SHE IS NOT HER CLOTHES. She is a lovely woman who has been oppressed, NOT ONLY by the male persuasion BUT by the damning judgements of other women.
- and the last, that I can think of, is that if those are “real men” they need to look at the general standards that they press upon women. “THEY” (Which I suspect are uptight women, but maybe men) not only rule most of the government, religions, payroll, opinions, and continue most of the gender / stereotypes, but they are pushing their beliefs on what a woman should wear. That sounds all together, VERY CONTROLLING.
6. How is it a WOMAN’S responsibility for men’s desires. Seriously. So uh, now because I know if I wear a really short skirt, I’m going to raise a few dicks in the room, suddenly I now have to ban skirts from my wardrobe? Yeah. Fuck that. Control yourselves, you assholes.
As you can see, my rage becomes worse throughout the points. I am having mad thoughts at the moment. Forgive me if they are not coherent. I just get very angry with bullshit like this. I will dress how I WANT TO FUCKING DRESS. I understand that should I dress a tad more scantily (I am not incline to, but for shits and giggles), I know that I would get judged. Mostly by other women, and by some men. Should I get unwanted attention, I have the balls to tell them to fuck off. No big deal. How I dress and carry myself is my business and none of yours, so piss off. I’m comfortable with my “damnation into the eternal fires of hell.” Totes chill.
And who the fuck said that I wanted attention in the first place. Maybe I am proud of my body, how I carry myself and who I am and maybe I want to wear a little black dress. It doesn’t mean that I am purposely going out to seek attention from anyone in a sexual manner.
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I dunno. Perhaps I’m wrong about all this. I just feel so angry about it.